A Day To Remember…Forever

There are those days that you will never forget…buying your 1st car, the first time you had…well you know, your wedding day, the birth of your children, and very select other days.  Personally, I was fortunate enough to experience one of those unforgettable days yesterday thanks to A Safe Haven in Chicago.  A Safe Haven is a foundation that helps people aspire, transform and sustain their lives as they transition from homelessness to self-sufficiency with pride and purpose.Banner ASH

Yesterday, A Safe Haven hosted the nation’s largest 5K run to end homelessness and Chicago’s largest veteran Stand Down.  When I signed up to volunteer for this event last week, I knew that what I was doing was for a great cause.  However, what I did not know was that I would be taking my 12 year old daughter with me to help volunteer, and that would change everything for me.

The Homeless injured vetevent featured approximately 5,000 runners/walkers who were running/walking at 8 am on a Sunday morning to help end homelessness.  Following the run, the event featured approximately 1,000 veterans who were either homeless or in a dire situation causing them to need help.  A Safe Haven provided both a duffel bag and a backpack full of clothes and toiletries, a pair of boots, a hat and a box of deodorant for each and every veteran who attended. My 12 year old daughter and I were assigned to loading the trucks with these items, unloading the trucks, and then delivering the items to the final destination.  We loaded and unloaded trucks for nearly 5 hours straight, and please keep in mind these are pretty heavy bags and backpacks completely filled with items.

IMAG0313I could not believe the way that my daughter handled this entire day.  Please keep in mind that she is 12 years old.  I had her up at 4 am to get to the event by 5:30.  Not only did she not complain, but she completely embraced this entire experience. She was lifting bag after bag after bag and smiling the entire time.  She was working as hard as I have ever seen her work, and she was motivated like I have never seen.  She absolutely LOVED knowing that what she was doing was helping others in the way that it was.  She interacted with the veterans and hand delivered items to them, while she engaged in conversations with them.  It was such a beautiful thing to see! When it was time to go, she did not want to leave at all, and she talked about the experience just about the whole way home during our hour and a half ride.  In the past, my daughter has been involved in buying Christmas gifts for children in need, but this is the first time that she was really actively involved in serving others on this level, and it was an amazing experience.

10534175_10204276816701491_8784133709343577717_nTo be able to serve others for such an incredible cause with your child for the first time is a type of joy and fulfillment that every parent should experience.  To watch your 12 your old daughter, and let’s be real, she is 12.  At that age, in their minds, the world revolves around them.  To see her being so selfless and so giving, and loving every minute of it, and to be able to share that with her, is something I will never forget.  All of us who are physically able need to give more to those who are starving for our help.  The gift of life is about serving others, it is that simple, and we should never forget that.  Let’s start our children knowing this and understanding this at an early age.  Kids’ minds are like silly putty and they can be molded.  It is our jobs as parents to expose them to what is really important in life so that their minds can be molded into caring, loving, giving, selfless people.  Take my word for it from personal experience, by doing so, you will create days that you will remember…forever.

-The Sales Leader

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The Past Is Behind You…Leave It There

Leave-The-PastWho has heard the saying “The greatest way to predict the future is by looking in the past”?  To a certain extent that is true.  If you want to know how someone will react in a certain situation, take a look at how that person reacted to a similar situation in the past.  If you want to know what someone’s sales numbers will be in the future, take a look at what their sales numbers have been in the past.  If you want to know if your new business partner is going to cheat you and take advantage of you, take a look at how this person has treated his/her partnerships in the past, and most likely you will have your answer.

The reason that you can predict the future by looking in the past is because most often times, things do not change.  We go through life doing the same things we have always done, the same way that we have always done them.  But this does not have to be YOU!  We are made with the ability to make up our own minds.  In this country, we have the freedom to make our own choices (within reason).  With the proper attitude, drive and mindset, WE CAN DO ANYTHING!  future past lane

If you don’t like how things have turned out, change them.  If you don’t like who you have become, change it.  If you have not surrounded yourself with the people who bring out the best in you, change it.  We can change anything.  The past is the past, but it does not have to be our future.  Your past is only your future if you continue to let it be your future.

We have all been in situations that have been less than ideal.  We have all done things that we are less than proud of.  We have all produced results that are far below our talent levels.  We have all made some horrible decisions both professionally and personally.  The common denominator here is that they all happened in the past.  The past is behind you, leave it all in the past and focus on change and the new future!

-The Sales Leader

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Prepare For Success

education_student_newsRemember when…you were in school and you had a big test coming up.  If you cared at all about your grades, what did you do prior to the test?  You studied, you prepared.  Remember when…you were playing sports and you had a big game coming up.  What did you do prior to the game?  You studied, you practiced, you prepared.  Remember when…you were in the high school play.  What did you do prior to the play?  You rehearsed, you prepared.

Why do we not take the same time for preparation when it comes to running our sales calls?  We prepare for tests, games, concerts, plays, competitions, driving tests, our weddings, childbirth, and so many other things.  However, when it comes to running sales calls, which is really our livelihood, very commonly, we choose not to prepare for those.  I know people (ok, me at times LOL) who spend more time preparing for their fantasy football league than they do their sales calls and their careers!

prep meets oppThe late, great Zig Ziglar often said that “Success comes when opportunity meets preparation.  What I have found to be the case is that there is no shortage of opportunity but there is plenty shortage of preparation.  How much better did we do on tests in school when we studied?  How much better did we play in games when we practiced first?  It just makes good sense to be prepared in everything you do, and your career is no different.

For best results, prepare by knowing your competition, learn about what you are up against, study your customer or your target market, script out a systematic approach to your sales calls, rehearse your sales calls, and know your product or service inside and out.  You have the opportunity, now prepare for success and start creating overwhelming victories!

– The Sales Leader

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How Well Do You Handle The Curve?

“Thepitcher batter pitcher winds up, here’s the pitch…and it’s another curve ball”!  Welcome to my life!  Welcome to many of our lives!  How many of us end up in situations just as we have planned?  How many times does the “pitcher of life” throw us a fast ball right down the middle that we can knock out of the park?  For many of us, the fast ball right down the middle does not come very often, and it is the curve ball that we are often faced with.  So, the question here is, “how well do you handle the curve” in the game of life?

Life is a very difficult game to play.  Life is unfair, life is often times unforgiving and lets’ face it, life can be downright hard and mean.  Life will throw you curve ball after curve ball after curve ball.  In many cases, how we handle the curve will determine who we are and what we achieve.  When a curve comes your way, are you the type of person who will bail out of the batter’s box in fear, or are you the type who welcomes the challenge?  Because really what it boils down to is that when life throws one of its nasty curve balls our way, we can either let it beat us, or we make it our decision to beat it.

Whether it be a personal situation or a professional situation, we are all faced with negativity.  In life we may experience a job loss, the death of a loved one, a financial hardship, a natural disaster causing us to lose our homes, or any one of life’s many other curves that may come our way.  The key to mental and emotional survival is to not let life beat us, but for us to beat it.  In the past three weeks, I have experienced the death of my father, a trip to the ER myself to get my heart zapped back into rhythm, dealing with the parting of one of my businesses, and I have a frivolous law suit being dropped in my lap.  To quote Larry The Cable Guy, “I don’t care who you are”, that is a ton for anyone to deal with.

kicking assBut, for those of you who have seen the movie “8 Mile”, I am sure you remember the rap battles at the end.  Eminem was rapping about all the ways that life had just been kicking his ass and he said “and I am still standing here saying F*** the Free World”!  That is me at this point.  I am not going to let this time in my life kick my ass, I am going to kick it’s ass!  The last few weeks has been one bad ass breaking ball, but I am not backing out of the batter’s box, and I am going to crush this pitch!  I know first hand that life can be very brutal, and that life can get you down.  But, when it does, show life how tough you are, and just crush it, because we all have it within us!

-The Sales Leader

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Make Them LOVE YOU!

Love picBe on time, have a great ice breaker, ask a lot of questions, do a killer presentation, close, pre-close, close again, always be closing, tell them what you are going to tell them, tell them, tell them what you told them, and the list goes on and on and on regarding all the things that we have to concentrate on to make just one sale.  While yes, all these things are vital to the sale, and they all need to happen, often times we seem to forget the key ingredient.  None of this matters at all unless they LOVE YOU!

Make them LOVE YOU!  People (well most people) are not robots, and they do not buy without emotion.  As prospects and as customers, we all have emotions.  We laugh, we cry, we get happy, we get angry, and yes even us men “feel”.  Most sales are driven by emotion.  People do not want to do business with people who they like.  People want to do business with people they LOVE!  So again, make them LOVE YOU!  FacesOK, I must confess…I watch American Idol.  For that, I must steal a line from Larry the Cable Guy, and say “Please forgive me Lord”!  Anyway, sometimes the judges on Idol will tell the contestants that they are thinking too much, and although the song they sang was technically flawless, they need to concentrate on connecting with the audience.  That is what I am saying here.  Connect with your audience.  Just like the singer, we must be technically sound as well and deliver a technically tremendous presentation, however, we cannot be so focused on the technical aspect of things that we lose focus of the connectivity that we must have with our prospects.

Make them LOVE YOU!  All of you have it within you, just make sure your prospect is seeing it too!

-The Sales Leader

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The Harsh Reality Is…

The Harsh Reality Is… As salesreality check people, each and every time we lose a sale, it is always our fault!  No, you do not need to have your eyes checked, and yes, you are reading this right.  It is always our fault, and we should never blame our prospects or our customers for lost sales.  I know that this is something that none of us want to hear, and that most of us don’t want to believe, but we must believe it for a couple of different reasons.

First of all, we need to believe this philosophy because it is true.  The majority of the time that we lose sales is due to something we did.  Maybe we were not a chameleon on the sales call and the prospect did not like us.  Maybe we wore an outfit that the prospect was not fond of.  Maybe we did not ask the right questions.  Maybe we missed a key element in our presentation.  Maybe we did not close hard enough.  Maybe we closed too hard.  Maybe we had a piece of broccoli stuck on our teeth from lunch.  Actually, who am I kidding, we are sales people, it was more likely the Big Mac smell left in our mouth that was offensive rather than a piece of broccoli sticking out of our teeth!  LOL.  The point is, there could be any number of reasons why we lost the sale, and that we could have controlled had we done something differently.  We are not perfect, and we make mistakes.  But in order for us to improve as sales people, we must learn from the mistakes.  If we can analyze each sales call and we can find something that we can control that could have possibly changed the outcome, then we have something to learn from and work on.  Then maybe, just maybe we won’t lose another one for the same reasonControl11.

The other reason that we need to believe that lost sales are always our fault is because we need to be in control, rather than giving control to our prospects.  If we can say that it was our fault that we lost the sale, the outcome of the sale ultimately remains within our control.  If we blame the prospect for the sale being lost, we are putting the control in the prospects’ hands, and that is something that we should never do.  If we place the blame on ourselves, we will always feel as if we are in control of each and every sales call and we will feel empowered as we know that we can always control the outcome!

-The Sales Leader

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Just Ask

I hajust ask1ve a question for all of you that I get asked often times myself by many sales professionals.  What is the best way to sell a prospect?  Many people have many different suggestions on what they think is the best way to accomplish this difficult task.  The good news is that there is someone who can answer this question for you.  The bad news is that I cannot answer this question for you, nor can most people in the world.  There is only one person out there who can answer this question for you, and that is your prospect.  All you need to do is just ask them.  They will tell you.

I don’t mean to sound harsh, but if you can remember these 4 words and implement them on each and every sales call, your success rate will skyrocket.  The 4 words are: SHUT UP AND LISTEN!  As sales professionals, we should be asking a ton of questions and listening intently to the responses.  If we ask the right questions, we will get all of the answers, and all of the ammunition we need to sell our prospects.  When in selling situations, we often times get too caught up in presenting and closing, and we don’t spend enough time asking questions and listening.  Our prospects are dying to tell us how to sell them.  But we are too busy talking to give them the opportunity.  Prospects want to buy, and they want to tell us how they need to be sold.  All we need to do is listen to what they are telling us.  In many cases, it really is this simple.  The next time you are with a prospect and you are racking your brain trying to figure out how to sell them, stop trying to figure it out, and just ask!

-The Sales Leader

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Starting Your Day

How do yoAlarm clocku start your work day?  If you are like most people, the start of your work day goes something like this.  Your alarm goes off, and you immediately hit snooze.  After a couple of times repeating this process, you roll out of bed, and get yourself ready for the day.  During this process, you may get a workout in, you probably get showered and cleaned up and you may get a chance to eat something for breakfast.  You then hop in your car or on a train and commute to work.  You then get to work, and you dive in head first starting your day.  Sound familiar?

What if I told you that there was a major flaw with this type of morning ritual?  What if I told you that a minor change in your daily routine could drastically change your mindset on how you attack your work day, which could lead to much greater productivity?  The answer is so simple, but yet so few people do it.  Start each and very day by spending 15 minutes either reading a book or watching a video on one of the following:  Motivation, Communication, Relationship Building, Inspiration or Leadership.  Everything we do is centered around these things, and our success in life both personally and professionally is reliant on communication, relationship building and our ability to positively be influenced as well as positively influence others.  These are core competencies that we all need to be successful in business, and it does not come easy without practice, and without warming up.RelationshipsImplementing this type of behavior into our morning ritual gets our minds warmed up and ready for the day.  When we exercise or work out, we warm up first.  Before singers go on stage, they warm up first.  When athletes get ready to play a game, they warm up first.  We warm up to get our bodies ready for the task, and if we are not warmed up, we are not able to perform at our most optimal level.  Why do we not do this in business?  It is crazy!  We should all be getting our minds prepped and ready to go.  To influence others in a positive manner, we need to be positive ourselves, and guess what, I have news for you.  Rushing to get ready in the morning, eating breakfast on the run, and developing road rage sitting in traffic does not put us in the proper frame of mind to conduct good, solid business.  We desperately need that 15 minutes of warm-up to get ourselves in a positive frame of mind so that we may productively attack the day.  Take a leap of faith, start injecting yourself with 15 minutes of motivational/relationship building materials each day and see what a difference it makes in your life!

-The Sales Leader

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Control What You Can Control

I wControlas listening to ESPN radio this morning, and I heard a quote that was spot on. I just caught the end of the conversation, and I am not sure who was talking and who I am quoting, but I do know it was a football player. He said “Control what you can control and don’t worry about what you can’t control”. What he was referring to was the upcoming Superbowl that is being played in “Don’t call me New York”, New Jersey. Everyone keeps talking about the weather and how the weather can affect the players, and his point was that they players cannot control the weather, so they should not worry about it? They should focus on the things that they can control.

I know, I know, all of you top tier professionals would be telling me that I should be listening to something that can provide me with more intellectual growth than ESPN, and most days you would be right, but at least for today, I can argue that point! LOL Anyone listening to ESPN this morning, would have been able to take away a great learning moment. Even though in this particular situation, the football player was referring to football, we can easily translate that to our everyday life, both professionally and personally.

It ladder manis human nature that we worry, and that is not going to change. However, we can control what we worry about, and we should not worry about the things that are out of our control. For example, many sales people worry about what the competition is doing far too much. We cannot control what the competition does, so why do we worry about it? We need to spend our time and energy focusing on the things that we can control…ourselves and our actions. Worrying about things that we have no control over are not going to make us better, because we can’t do anything about it. What we can do something about is ourselves and our actions, and that is where our focus should be!

-The Sales Leader

Tough Lessons: Don’t Take Business Personal

One of the toughest lessons I have ever had to learn in business is that business should not be taken personally…for the most part. What I mean is that when someone is upset with you in a business setting or when someone tells you “no” when attempting to sell them something, it is not an attack on your personal character. Prior to figuring this out, every time I would lose a sale or have someone upset with me in business, I would take it personally and base my reaction on my personal feelings, which is completely wrong. When someone tells us “no” as sales professionals, they are not attacking our personal character, and we should not treat it as such. It is not personal, it is business. However, the reason I say: “Well maybe a little” in my title is that when you don’t make a sale, you never want to blame the customer for not making that sale. You want to self-analyze to see where you “personally” may have missed something or dropped the ball. If you don’t see each lost sale as an opportunity to look inside yourself to see where you can improve, you will never reach your full potential. The point is, don’t take lost sales as an attack on your personal character, but do take lost sales to heart. It will give you the opportunity to better yourself.

“Recognize Effort, Reward Success.”

-The Sales Leader